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Dating can make you feel both excited and sick all at the same time. For someone looking for a relationship, not just a hook up, dating holds not only the hope for a bright and loving future but also the possibility of pain and heartbreak. Dating is rough. People aren't always what they seem. When you start the dating process, you are usually on your best behavior. But many people try to be someone they aren't in order to convince the person they are dating that they have found exactly who they were looking for. But that doesn't result in a happy ending. Sure, you want to be on your best behavior...put your best foot forward. But you still want to be yourself. The goal is not to dupe someone into being in a relationship with you. The goal is to find someone who loves you for who you are and accepts you...faults and all.Many single Christians find websites dating difficult. It is assumed that the church is the best place to find that special someone but that isn't always the case. Many churches have grown so large that many people end up feeling invisible, just a random face in the crowd.Unfortunately, unless they take part in small group activities, getting to know others can be hard. There doesn't seem to be as much socializing after church as there used to be. Back in the day, the church sermon was just the beginning of your Sunday morning. After church there would be a potluck and the congregation would gather to get to know each other better and make lasting friendships. Nowadays, many churches have abandoned that tradition and therefore people can attend the same church for years and never really know anyone.The world we live in is chaotic and moves at a hectic pace. It seems more and more individuals follow the "get in and get out" philosophy when it comes to going to Church. We all want to be fed, but we also have busy lives and things to do so we don't stick around afterward. So what is one to do when they want to fellowship with other believers and meet someone special who just may end up being their soul mate? The obvious choice is to make an effort in getting involved with your Church or small group. Most churches have a singles group that gets together at least once, maybe twice, a week. You can also look into outreach. Focus on helping others and you may just find what you are looking for when you stop looking. But if you are really wanting to jump into dating feet first, try online dating.There are many online dating websites available on the internet today. Some are geared toward the general public and others are created specifically for Christians.Even though some single Christians may feel self-conscious about stepping into the world of Online Dating, there is no reason. Christian Dating is alive and well on the internet and using the web to start meeting new Christian singles in your area is a fantastic way to socialize with people who take their faith as seriously as you do. Where else can you go to meet other Christians? If Church isn't filling that specific desire and obviously, going to bars and clubs to meet other Christian singles is not ideal, going to the Internet is the apparent choice.My suggestion is to find a dating website that focuses on Christian Dating so that you know that the matches you get are Christian Singles. It is disappointing to see you have a match only to find out they have no interest in the Lord. The bible does state not to be yoked together with unbelievers so it is important to restrict your dating pool to other Christians. Obviously, befriending non-Christians is a good thing because you then have the opportunity to be a witness for Christ. But when it comes to giving your heart to someone else, you need to give it to someone who shares your belief and your faith. Hence, it is advisable to utilize a Christian Dating Website when beginning your online dating journey.Once you find the right Christina dating site and being to create your profile, be honest. Be yourself. Take to heart the fact that you are special and unique and deserving to find joy. Would you have your faults? Completely. We all do. We all have things about ourselves that we want we could alter and if there's something which you want to alter about yourself..something which you want to work on...go for it. But do not hide who you are by attempting to stuff yourself into someone else's ideal. Putting yourself available is frightening. Rejection is difficult to take however you cannot take a look at rejection as you being declined. You have to alter your viewpoint. If someone doesn't or can't relate for you or create a connection with you...they aren't someone that you would like to squander your time with. You go forward and think about that you're another individual closer to discovering that one person who you are able to create a lifestyle with.Are you currently assured adore? None of us are. But all of us should have a chance at possessing a fulfilling, loving relationship and there's absolutely nothing incorrect in attempting to jump-start the research by using the stage toward online Christian dating.But I provide a phrase of caution. Do not put an excessive amount of stress on yourself and your date as you embark around the dating journey. A date is just a date. Do not go into a date with expectations that this individual will be "The One". Just appreciate the evening out. Appreciate the date at face worth. Using a more laid back again mindset toward dating might help relieve a great deal from the needless stress and tension that may arrive from dating. Dating can be enjoyable. Appreciate the new experiences. Appreciate the business, the film or even the supper. In the finish from the day, if there's a connection there will be an additional date. If there isn't....then at least you received a great meal and you go forward. A bit self-confidence and viewpoint can go an extended way toward good results in dating.